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Some husbands whose wives refuse to perform oral sex on them complain that other women do this for the men they love and if their wife really loved them they would do it; but some women are not comfortable with oral sex, whether to give it or receive it. Oral sex is like the countless sex positions that have been invented. It is not a necessary part of the sexual experience.
One of the most common remarks made in the comments below by husbands complaining that their wives refuse to perform the above mentioned sex act is that their wives loved doing it before they got married but as soon as they got the ring on their finger then all of a sudden they stopped doing it and changed their tune as far as how they felt about the act.
If a woman loves performing oral sex she loves performing oral sex. Getting married will not suddenly result in her no longer loving any particular sex act that she loved before she got married. If your wife seemed to love doing it while you were dating then started saying she hated doing it after you got married, it is more likely that your wife never loved doing it in the first place. Otherwise, if she really did enjoy it and now acts suddenly repulsed by it, something is going on that is making the act repulsive to her.
Like some people commented below, if you care enough then try to work with your wife to identify and resolve the issue. Both men and women do this. It is also true for men.
Where we once saw each other as someone to work extra hard to please in order to win, we reach a point of not seeing each other as someone to work extra hard to please in order to keep. So we stop doing the extra stuff particularly when it comes to keeping up with the things that create and maintain attraction.
People like to say that as long as a woman feels loved and secure she will open up sexually. It could be your smell even. Whatever the source of the repulsion, only women who get paid for sex in some way usually have the ability to still perform despite it. So are you in some way repulsing your wife? The same way a scent can be powerful in attracting people to you, it can be equally effective in its power to repulse people and make them recoil from you.
It would certainly to be worth it to talk to your wife and rule this out as a possible reason or identify it as a contributing factor. She does want to make you happy in any way she can; but for her this is not just a simple matter of deciding not to have a problem and proceeding to blow your mind after making that decision. And what is it that you most want? How can that happen if your feelings towards her are so ugly that you would rather simply trash her here or elsewhere online than go to her and talk with her honestly, openly, respectfully about your feelings and desires and your concerns that her neglect as you perceive it could cause major problems for the two of you and possibly end your marriage?
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Some of my closest friends and I have had the same experience with our wives. Oral sex was great before marriage, and after marriage, it became a chore. Men like oral sex as much as women love foreplay and cuddling after sex. Oral sex is not only a turn on, it represents that our lover wife is willing to give us pleasure. As wives continue to avoid giving their husbands oral sex, husbands will continue to find other avenues to satisfy their sexual needs.
Women love to receive oral sex, but act as if the penis is disgusting…and that is simply not fair. I get a bj or 69 at least once or twice a month. With three kids, washing clothes, dinner and taking care of the kids is way more important than oral sex. I dont advocate any married man to divorce over this issue until the kids are out of the house. It would terrible for any father to do that.
I would rather see man have a Mistresses or prostitute then to divorce. Dude u r sooooooo lucky. My wife is not into sex at All anymore and makes me want to jump off a bridge.
I have to beg for head. Still not a big deal. I do agree divorce is not the answer but cheating is so much work. You are a total loser. I get sucked everyday by my gf. You need to leave that dying bitch if she doesnt suck your dick everyday. I cant keep my hands off my husband ever since I got over my fear of giving him head…thinking it meant I was a slut. He wouldnt respect me, I was dirty. This is the most erotic fun I have ever had in my life. Thank God he was patient with me and let me talk through my fears and insecurities and then said I could practice as much as I needed till I knew how and what got him off.
He gets an erection and Im all over it. I feel like Ive gone and lost my damn mind. When he gets home from work and exhausted falls into bed I tell him go shower quick cause you know whats gonna happen when you wake up with morning wood. I cant control myself and if your dirty Ill be pissed. Ladies…do something with your husbands penic even if you just lick it a bit to get use to it and keep talking to your husband about your feelings and work through them. My light bulb moment was when dureing one of our talks I realized I was calling his most imtimate body part dirty and disgusting.
Never once has he ever called my vagina that. He says its beautiful. I felt so terrible for saying those things but I sure am makeing up for it now and not just cause he likes it but cause after awhile of doing oral on him I have begun to crave his body. I promise your marriage will be on fire. Your man is very lucky to have you I have done all these things I eat out my wife all the time tell she squirts and I still get none back..
Melt her favorite candy bar and cover your penis with it? Slather on her favorite ice cream? Some woman are just afraid it means they are a whore if they give head. Dip it in flavored kool aid sugar mix. LOL Try some stuff to make it look appetizing.
Wrap a pizza around it? I dont know think of something before you go nuts cause its fun as hell. Jerk off while she kisses it. Thats how my husband started with me cause I couldnt do it fast enough and I felt uncomfortable doing it so he helped me.
Just try to get her to lick it or kiss it once in a while and moan like crazy when she does it. But dont make her finish it till she gets herself use to it and feels more comfortable and ask her how she feels and let her work through her issues with it. Woman have a lot of issues with giving head dont be offeded its society that has destroyed our sexuality as woman saying were whores if we like it. If your wife is willing to receive oral sex and have orgasms as the result thereof but unwilling to reciprocate the it is time for the talk.
If I was you I would explain to her of your want and need for reciprocation or just head to completion. If she is pissed off because she does not get what she wants then let her be pissed off.
She may try to piss you off and egg you on. It is time we be the men we were created to be. Most women these days act like spoiled children when their every whim and want is not met. Guess I just have to be good with the lame sex life..
Not going to cheat just have to deal with it. No husband should feel like this way. Dont give up yet keep makeing her laugh. I love to give my husband a bj I love to surprise him by doing it we could be in the car the driving watching tv I say drop em and thats that. I hate to say it but this is true. The only thing you can do is suck it up and drive on, get it some where else or leave her. As time went on it went from more than twice a day to not at all.
I love my wife. I have been married for 27 years. Prior to marriage my wife was all over me and gave oral sex without requests.. That is the only way she is worth a shit in bed. I have contacted and hired a divorce attorney./p>
Truth be told, over a third of the men that I asked what specifically it was that they liked about blowjobs were unable to articulate it.
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Men love blowjobs because of the l ove that they feel for their partner I think that we tend to forget this on some level because sex is shoved in our faces on a daily basis in so many different ways media, advertising, etc.
Want to encourage even more depth in your relationship? OK, maybe I'm the only one who still uses that last one. What I'm trying to get at here is that there are a ton of different terms for oral sex. Just how much do they enjoy receiving it? I would have put my money on P in the V winning out here, but apparently there's nothing that beats someone going downtown on you.
Which got me thinking, what's so great about oral sex? What do guys really think about oral pleasure? To help your partner help you out, I asked men to tell me all the details about the best parts of getting head, the mistakes to avoid, and a few, um, colorful anecdotes about what it's like when women simply blow them away.
Good oral sex feels like falling spread eagle through the sky into vanilla flavored clouds — and the more you fall, the better you feel. And the sun isn't above you, but underneath you, and it gets more and more intense, but not in a burning way thank God until you can't take it anymore and you cum. It feels like a piece of your soul is riding a little tiny inner tube down a creamy river, and while you feel accomplished in that very powerful moment, all you want is for her to leave you and your penis alone so that the missing piece of soul can be sewed back up.
Then you go again, or give her an excuse to go away. Zimbabweans empty store shelves in anticipation of product shortages. Trevor Noah slams Trump for making men 'the true victims of the MeToo movement'.
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What type of women enjoy oral sex? Why do women love receiving oral? Oral provides greater orgasmic opportunity To reach an orgasm, women need ongoing, steady stimulation which means that the giver needs to be patient and not rush.
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